This brave and honest testimonial from a couples client, Sarah, shows how even when your relationship future looks bleak, rebuilding a stronger one maybe possible.
"My partner and I had been together for many years and had a very happy relationship when we were challenged by a potentially devastating financial ‘mistake’. I had felt very shocked, angry and let down by him and could not see a way of rebuilding my trust.
We saw Katrina together over several months. At one point it looked as if we would separate and it was good to know that Katrina would help us through that process if need be. Thankfully, in the end it wasn’t necessary.
Katrina helped us to really talk honestly with each other. It was difficult at times to hear what he thought and felt about my way of being and communicating and - I won’t lie - there were a few tense car journeys home!
But Katrina supported us through that. She was also able to help me express and channel my considerable rage, which could have felt very unsafe without adequate support and appropriate containment.
Her consulting room felt like a safe place to say things I couldn’t say elsewhere. I got to say what I needed to say without it destroying us!
I really appreciated the way that Katrina did not side with either of us, and never blamed anyone, but stayed fully focused on ‘the relationship’ as her client. I also liked the methods she used, particularly working with the sand tray, which was a really creative way to express and work through feelings and unconscious ‘stuff’ that may have not found its way into the light using conventional talking methods. Katrina also taught us how to do a daily temperature check to keep us communicating honestly but helpfully.
We stayed together! It surprised many of our friends who really thought we wouldn’t make it through. We are now 5 years on and going strong.
I am so glad we stuck with it because we have been closer than ever and communicate so much more helpfully. What doesn’t break you really does make you stronger!
Every now and then we reflect on that time and we are both so thankful that we found the right person to help us through that difficult time.
Katrina is a warm, safe, competent, brave, creative and gifted therapist. I have recommended many people to her since and will continue to do so.”