Couples Counselling

The love and companionship of another can bring out the best in us.  A good relationship can be nurturing, supportive and enlivening.    However relationships can also be a source of pain, rather than of pleasure; with one or both partners feeling powerless, angry, hurt or discouraged.  

Couples Counselling can help you set your relationship back on course for better times, (or it can ease the difficulties of a breakup).  We will look at the dynamics of what is going on between you, so that you both feel heard and respected.  You can learn better ways of communicating what is most alive for you - appreciations and passions, complaints and resentments, puzzles and concerns, dreams and aspirations.  You can explore how you express love and caring to one another and how it is received. 

Relationships don't happen in a bubble. Both parties bring hopes and fears of what a relationship can be - physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually - perhaps learnt from families of origin or from previous relationships. Changing circumstances and the demands of children, in-laws, health, home, culture and career can all play a part in strengthening or weakening a relationship. We can look at how a relationship can respond strongly and flexibly to these factors too.Good relationships needs attention and time - which is often freely given at the "falling-in-love" stage. Couples counselling can help you build that foundation of loving attention and time back into your relationship.   

Good relationships needs attention and time - which is often freely given at the "falling-in-love" stage. Couples counselling can help you build that foundation of loving attention and time back into your relationship, so that it can thrive and flourish long after your couples counselling has ended. 

Or if one or both of you do not want to rebuild the relationship, then you can use couples counselling to look at what contributed to the relationship breakdown (so that these factors are less likely to effect you and your future relationships) and/or to improve your relating enough to facilitate communication about any shared children  and achieve a non-combative separation.

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